Dude! Run! 21 Jan

(Message 3) Don’t go there! Run away! There are just some lines that should not be crossed when it comes to relationships with the opposite sex. In fact, sometimes we just need to head the other direction. Join us as we take a look at some specific guardrails for married people and singles.

Guardrail:

A non-negotiable boundary that is a matter of personal conviction.

 

Guardrails for married couples:

  1. Don’t travel alone with members of the opposite sex.
  2. Don’t eat alone with members of the opposite sex.
  3. Don’t confide in or counsel members of the opposite sex.
  4. When you feel your heart or desire drift toward a specific person, tell someone.

 

Guardrails for singles:

  1. Apply the guidelines for married people in your relationships with married people.
  2. No sleepovers.
  3. Take a relationship break.

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We have added something extra to the Sermon-Based Questions.  It’s called “Digging Deeper” and you’ll find it after the Daily Bible Reading.  The first part of “Digging Deeper” is to determine the author, background, and context of the Scripture.  Here’s a sample of how it works using 1 Corinthians:

Author:  Paul

Background: Corinth was famous for its corruption.

Context:  The letter was written to believers in Christ to address several moral issues within the church and other issues.  1 Corinthians 1:2 “I am writing to God’s church in Corinth, to you who have been called by God to be his own holy people. He made you holy by means of Christ Jesus, just as he did for all people everywhere who call on the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, their Lord and ours.”

Discussion Questions:

  1. What’s the best dating advice you were ever given?  If you are married, what’s the best marriage advice you were given?  Did you follow it?
  2. Why does our culture resist guardrails when it comes to relationships with the opposite sex?
  3. Read 1 Corinthians 6:12 in a few different versions (Links for NIV, ESV, NASB).  This verse seems to make an argument for and against guardrails.  How do you read it?  How do you apply its wisdom to your life?
  4. Gotquestions.org says, “In the New Testament, the word most often translated “sexual immorality” is porneia. This word is also translated as “whoredom,” “fornication,” and “idolatry.” It means “a surrendering of sexual purity”, and it is primarily used of premarital sexual relations. From this Greek word we get the English word pornography, stemming from the concept of “selling off.” Sexual immorality is the “selling off” of sexual purity and involves any type of sexual expression outside the boundaries of a biblically defined marriage relationship (Matthew 19:4–5).”  www.gotquestions.org/sexual-immorality.html
    • Read I Corinthians 6:13-17.  Our culture and even those around us say things like  “sex is just a thing,”  “just practice safe sex,”  and “it was just a one night stand.” How do our minds comprehend and use these influences to motivate and justify our behavior?
    • Read Mark 10:8 and Genesis 2:24. In light of all of these verses, discuss the spiritual implications of  “the two will become one flesh.”
  5. Read 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 and 2 Corinthians 6:16.
    • The Bible teaches us that as a believer in Christ our body is the temple of God.  What does this mean?
    • We are commanded to resist most other sins, but sexual temptation is different.  With sexual temptation, we are commanded to flee.  Why is that?
    • How is sexual sin a sin against our own body?
  6. What do you think it looks like to honor God with our bodies?  How does honoring God with our bodies become a guiding principle for relationships?
  7. Do you need to begin to flee from, instead of, flirt with sexual immorality? What are some specific guardrails you need to put in place? Share them with your group if you’re comfortable doing so. How can accountability help you to put in place/maintain guardrails that will encourage healthy relationships?

Daily Scripture Readings:

Day 1:  Psalm 111:1-5

Day 2:  Psalm 111:6-10

Day 3:  Proverbs 8:1-5

Day 4:  Proverbs 8:6-9

Day 5:  Proverbs 8:10-14

Day 6:  Proverbs 19:16

Day 7:  Proverbs 4:10-11

Digging Deeper:

This week we are going to dig deeper into some proverbs verses.  If you get a chance, read them in a few different versions.  We have provided the New Living Translation for you.

Proverbs ABC’s

Author: Solomon for Chapters 1-29, Agur Chapter 30, and king Lemuel Chapter 31

Background:  Proverbs is a colorfully poetic book.  A wide range of subjects. Some say all of Proverbs was actually written by Solomon.

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Context:  Proverbs covers a broad range subjects centered around relationships, warnings, instructions, and counsel.  They exhort us to be wise as well as honest, diligent, kind, generous, cheerful, generous, patient, loyal, exhibit self-control, etc.  Proverbs is often called the book of wisdom.

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Proverbs 17:27 NLT
“A truly wise person uses few words; a person with understanding is even-tempered.”

Proverbs 12:18 NLT
“Some people make cutting remarks, but the words of the wise bring healing.”

Proverbs 20:19 NLT
“A gossip tells secrets, so don’t hang around with chatterers.”

Proverbs 18:13 
“Spouting off before listening to the facts is both shameful and foolish.”

 

1, 2, 3’s

Step 1 – Observation:  What does the passage say?  

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Step Two – Interpretation:  What does it mean?  

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Step Three- Application:  How does it apply to my life?

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