Gossiping 27 Feb

(Week 4) I’m not supposed to say anything, but have you heard…? Passing along some juicy news or insider information can make us feel important, but it can also be harmful. Well, here’s a secret you can pass on: this week, gossip is another reason to keep My Big Fat Mouth shut! #mybigfatmouth

Gossip: giving a report about the life of another person without their direct consent.

 

Why Do We Gossip?

  1. To Entertain
  2. To Deflect
  3. By Accident

 

How Do I Stop My Gossip?

  1. Ask: Would I want this information shared if it were about me?
  2. Ask: What problem am I solving by talking about this?

 

How Do I Stop Others’ Gossip?

  1. Ask: “Why are you telling me this?”
  2. Ask: “Have you had a chance to talk to _____ about this?”

 

Gossip Hurts Everyone:

  1. The Gossiper (Proverbs 25:9-10)
  2. The Subject (Proverbs 16:8b)
  3. The Listener (Proverbs 20:19; 17:4)

 

Scripture used: Proverbs 18:8 NLT; Ephesians 4:29 NLT; Proverbs 25:9-10 NLT; Proverbs 16:28 NLT; Proverbs 20:19 NLT; Proverbs 17:4 NLT; Romans 1:29 NLT; James 1:26 NLT

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Challenge: You are not allowed to talk about anyone but yourself for the entire small group discussion! 

  1. Read Proverbs 18:7-8. 
    • What is your favorite snack/morsel that you just can’t resist? 
  2. Why is gossiping so irresistible?  When you gossip what are you looking to get out of it?
  3. Have you ever justified your gossip? Does your justification hold up?
  4. What are some of the negative consequences that result from gossiping?
  5. Why is talking about others destructive, even if it’s accurate information?
  6. Read Ephesians 4:29.
    • Do you think that every conversation needs to be productive or solve a problem?
    • Why or why not?
    • Discuss whether or not small talk and idle chatter is ok?
  7. Are Christians more known for holding their tongues, or for their gossip? Why do you think this is?
  8. Read Proverbs 16:28.  
    • What can gossip do to friendships?
  9. Read Proverbs 17:4 and Proverbs 20:19.
    • What does this verse say about why it is so important to not even listen to gossip?
  10. Read James 1:26 and Proverbs 11:12-13.
    • What do these verses in James and Proverbs say about controlling our tongues?
  11. Is there anyone you’ve hurt with gossip? How will you make it right?

Daily Scripture Readings:

Day 1:  Romans 1:29-32

Day 2: Psalm 15:1-5

Day 3: Proverbs 21:23, Proverbs 26:22

Day 4: 1 Timothy 5:12-13

Day 5:  James 3:2-5

Day 6:  James 3:6-12

Day 7:  Psalm 19:14

DIGGING DEEPER

Psalm 15:2-5

v. 2 The one whose walk is blameless, who does what is righteous, who speaks the truth from their heart;

v. 3 whose tongue utters no slander, who does no wrong to a neighbor, and casts no slur on others;

v. 4 who despises a vile person but honors those who fear the Lordwho keeps an oath even when it hurts, and does not change their mind;

v. 5 who lends money to the poor without interest; who does not accept a bribe against the innocent. Whoever does these things will never be shaken.

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Author: In contrast to what we all might think, David did not write the entirety of the Book of Psalms. In fact, Psalms includes more authors than any other book of the Bible, including Asaph, The sons of Korah, Heman, Solomon, Moses, and Ethan the Ezrahite.

Background:  The Psalms were written over nearly a 1,000-year period ranging from the lifetime of Moses in the wilderness (1440—1400 BC) to Ezra (fourth century BC). Almost all of the Psalms were composed during the lifetimes of both David and Solomon.

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Context:  This Psalm is simply titled, A Psalm of David. In it, David meditates over the character of the man received into the presence of God. There is no precise occasion for this Psalm, but it may well have been when they were bringing of the ark of the covenant into Jerusalem.

These verses we will deeper digger into this week are words of King David as to the kind of character God receives. Just as David was very much concerned with the questions asked and answered in this Psalm we should be too. Let’s Dig Deeper!

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Step 1 – Observation:  What does the passage say?  

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Step Three- Application:  How does it apply to my life?

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Speaker

Casey Townsend

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