Honor | Part 14 | #7: Divorce and Remarriage 14 Apr

When is divorce okay with God? When is remarriage not okay with God? What should you do in a struggling marriage or if you’ve messed up? Join us for our message, “Divorce and Remarriage”. #GCHonor

The 7th Commandment: You must not commit adultery.


Marriage is not just a legal contract between a man and a woman. It is a lifelong covenant with God himself.

Contract: “If you do this, then I’ll do that.”

Covenant: “No matter what you do, I’ll do this.”


When is Divorce Biblically Allowed?

  1. On account of adultery
  2. On account of desertion by an unbeliever


Divorce is not permissible due to:

  1. Arguing
  2. Unrealistic expectations
  3. “we just never seem to get along”
  4. Emotional disconnect
  5. “I just don’t love them anymore”
  6. Etc.

Just because divorce may be allowed, doesn’t mean it is required.


Remarriage is permissible when:

  1. Divorce due to adultery
  2. Divorce due to desertion
  3. A marriage ends due to death
    • 1 Timothy 5:14 (widows to marry again)


Oops… I messed up!

  • Repentance
  • Forgiveness
  • Faithfulness


How to Divorce-Proof Your Marriage:

  1. Pray together
  2. Praise Together
  3. Play Together
  4. Protect Together
    • Physical
    • Emotional
    • Spiritual
    • Intellectual
    • Time


The best metaphor for Christ and His Church is biblical marriage.

  • Christ is the Groom
  • His Church is the Bride


Start reading.

Key Scripture:

Matthew 19:3–6 (NLT)

3 Some Pharisees came and tried to trap him with this question: “Should a man be allowed to divorce his wife for just any reason?”

4 “Haven’t you read the Scriptures?” Jesus replied. “They record that from the beginning ‘God made them male and female.’ 5 And he said, ‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’ 6 Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.”

Malachi 2:14–16 (NLT)

14 You cry out, “Why doesn’t the LORD accept my worship?” I’ll tell you why! Because the LORD witnessed the vows you and your wife made when you were young. But you have been unfaithful to her, though she remained your faithful partner, the wife of your marriage vows.

15 Didn’t the LORD make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth. 16 “For I hate divorce!” says the LORD, the God of Israel. “To divorce your wife is to overwhelm her with cruelty,” says the LORD of Heaven’s Armies. “So guard your heart; do not be unfaithful to your wife.”

Matthew 5:31–32 (NLT)

31 “You have heard the law that says, ‘A man can divorce his wife by merely giving her a written notice of divorce.’ 32 But I say that a man who divorces his wife, unless she has been unfaithful, causes her to commit adultery. And anyone who marries a divorced woman also commits adultery.

Ephesians 5:21–30 (NLT)

Start talking. Find a conversation starter for your group.

  • Share a funny or surprising story about a wedding you attended. What was something memorable that happened?

Start sharing. These questions are to help get your group thinking and to create openness.

  • Read Matthew 19:3-6. Why does Jesus reference Genesis in His response about divorce to the Pharisees?
  • Discuss the first-century context provided in the sermon about the differing schools of thought on divorce (Shammai, Hillel, Akiba). How does this background help us understand Jesus’ stance on marriage?
  • Malachi 2:14-16 describes God’s feelings about divorce. What does it mean that God “witnessed the vows” made in marriage?
  • Pastor Clay explained the difference between a contract and a covenant in marriage. How does seeing marriage as a covenant change the way we approach marital challenges?
  • Read Matthew 5:31-32. What is Jesus teaching about divorce in this passage? Discuss the implications of this for how we support friends or family members going through marital difficulties.
  • How can the church community support those who have experienced divorce or are struggling in their marriages?
  • Discuss how the New Covenant under Jesus influences our understanding and approach to marriage and divorce.
  • In Ephesians 5:21-30, Paul uses beautiful imagery of a husband and wife compared to Christ and His Church.  What does this teach us about marriage and salvation?

Start doing. Commit to a step and live it out this week.

  • Identify one action you can take this week to strengthen your marriage.

Start praying. Be bold and pray with power.

  • Lord, we thank You for the gift of marriage and the teachings You provide on honoring our commitment. Help us to reflect Your love and faithfulness in our relationships. Strengthen us to uphold the vows made and to walk in love, patience, and forgiveness. Guide those among us who are facing challenges, and may Your wisdom lead us in every action. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

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Clay Weed

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