The Vow to Pursue 23 Feb 20

(Message 3) “We just fell out of love.” This is a common phrase used by married couples headed for divorce. Is it true, or is there something that cand be done to keep the love alive? Join us as we redefine love and give some practical advice on how to keep the flame alive in our message, The Vow to Pursue. #GCTheVow

We all naturally pursue what we don’t have.


A common divorce phrase: “We just fell out of love.”


Redefining Love:

  1. Love is a verb
  2. Love makes frequent deposits


Pursuing your spouse:

  1. Encourage Daily
  2. Date Monthly
  3. Escape Yearly


“I take you all over again to be my wife/husband,
To love you for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer,
In sickness and in health, till death do us part,
And I promise to pursue you and love you as long as we both shall live.”

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Colossians 3:19 NLT

Husbands, love your wives and never treat them harshly.

Ephesians 5:25 NLT

For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 NLT

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance

Philippians 2:3 NLT

Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too.

Hebrews 3:13 NLT

But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called “Today”, so that none of you may be hardened by sins deceitfulness. 

Start talking. Find a conversation starter for your group.

  • What’s something crazy you’ve done for love?
  • What things did you once do to pursue your spouse? What similar things can you do today to never stop pursuing your spouse?

Start thinking. Ask a question to get your group thinking.

  • 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. How can we love our spouses and others in our lives the way that this scripture instructs us to love?
  • How do you handle those times when you believe that you are the only one working at your marriage or when your spouse refuses to discuss the issues creating drabness or divisiveness? What are some resources available to you for finding the encouragement needed to continue pursuing a healthy marriage account as a spouse committed to living out
  • Read Philippians 2:3-7. What does it mean in your marriage and life to put other’s needs above your own? What’s our motivation for such strange behavior?

Start sharing. Choose a question to create openness.

  • Why is it so easy for married couples to become complacent in their relationship with their spouse? How do you fight against complacency and work at your marriage?
  • What are you committed to start doing for your marriage (encourage daily, date monthly, escape yearly)? Why is this not already happening for you and your spouse? If you are single how can you do this in your close relationships? 
  • How does it make you feel to know that God pursues a love relationship with you? Have you allowed God to completely catch you? Why or why not?
  • What are you willing to commit to for your love relationship with God (read daily, pray daily, serve weekly)? Why are you not already doing these things?

Start doing. Commit to a step and live it out this week.

  • Whether married or not try to love others with a love like 1 Corinthians 13:4-7.
  • Encourage more in your marriage or if single do so in your close relationships.

 Start praying.  Be bold and pray with power.

  • Jesus, thank You for always showing us unconditional love. Align our hearts with Yours so we can love others better. Holy Spirit, help us to be faithful in always pursuing a godly marriage. Amen!

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Troy Knight

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